You're ready to move on, but something inside won't let you.
You feel like this reaction is bigger than what the moment deserves, but that doesn’t stop it from happening. Maybe you find yourself overexplaining, avoiding conflict, or saying yes when you’re already stretched to your limit, just to keep the peace.
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You’ve tried to work through it on your own. You’ve talked yourself through it, reflected, maybe even done some work to understand where it comes from. But that wasn’t enough to turn down the intensity. It still bothers you, a lot.
EMDR therapy can help you get unstuck and respond in a way that works for you
EMDR is a therapy approach that helps you process painful unresolved experiences, so they stop showing up in the present. You don’t have to talk through every detail or relive everything that’s happened. Instead, we use specific techniques to help your mind and nervous system respond more accurately to what’s happening now, instead of reacting like you’re still in the past.
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EMDR is structured, but not rigid and you’re never just left to “sit in it.” We’ll go at your pace, with lots of support and preparation every step of the way.
EMDR can work for...
Trauma & Difficult Experiences
Single events, repeated experiences, or a history that's harder to name. EMDR helps the brain finish processing what it never fully worked through so the past stops activating in the present.
Anxiety & Chronic Worry
When anxiety isn't just about the present situation; when it feels disproportionate, hard to turn off, or tied to something older, EMDR addresses the underlying things that keep the threat response going
Persistent Stress & Burnout
Stress that doesn't recover with rest often has its roots in how the nervous system learned to operate. EMDR can help reduce the baseline activation that makes everything feel harder than it should .
Negative Beliefs About Yourself
Thoughts like I'm not enough, I have to earn my place, or I can't make mistakes rarely respond to logic alone. They're often stored in the body and tied to experience, which is exactly where EMDR works.
Perfectionism & Fear of Failure
High standards are rarely the problem. The problem is when those standards are driven by fear of judgment, of being exposed, or not being enough. EMDR helps loosen what's underneath so the standard stops feeling like survival.
Grief & Loss
Grief that gets stuck; circling back, resurfacing at unexpected moments, or that never quite settled, often needs more than time. EMDR supports the natural process of integrating loss without forcing resolution.
Relationship Patterns
Reactions in close relationships feel bigger than the situation. Withdrawal, defensiveness, and shutting down are often echoes of earlier experiences. EMDR works at the source, not just the surface behavior.
Feeling Stuck Despite Insight
You can understand something completely and still feel it pulling at you. That gap between knowing and feeling is often where EMDR is most useful, it works below the level that understanding alone can reach.
In EMDR...
We start by looking at the experiences that still hold some power in your life, whether it’s specific memories, a pattern in your relationships that keeps repeating, or a moment you can’t seem to shake. You’ll bring what’s bothering you into mind while using a form of bilateral stimulation, usually through eye movements, tapping, or sound.
This process activates the brain’s natural way of reprocessing experiences, so what once felt overwhelming starts to feel more manageable. Instead of just thinking or talking about what happened, you’re working with your nervous system to help it register that the difficult experience is over and what may have felt true, is no longer the case.
A reaction may still come up, but it doesn’t take over the way it used to. Over time, you feel more able to stay present and respond in a way that fits the moment, not the past.
FAQ
Yes, EMDR can absolutely be done online. I offer online EMDR sessions using secure video and tools that work just as well for bilateral stimulation. You don’t need any special equipment. A computer is helpful, but we can do it if you’re using your smartphone or tablet too. I’ll guide you through everything. As long as you have a quiet, private space and a stable connection, we can do this work together remotely.
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Can we do EMDR online, or do I need to be in person?
That’s really common. EMDR works well for lot of things, whether it’s a one-time trauma, repeated patterns that build over time, or something else that just feels stuck. We’ll work together to identify where you feel stuck and how those experiences are still showing up now.
What if I don't have one big trauma, just a lot of things that added up?
That depends on what you’re working through. Some people feel meaningful relief in just a few sessions when focusing on a specific memory or situation. Others need more time to work through deeper or more complex patterns. We’ll talk through this at the beginning and adjust as we go.
How long does EMDR take?
No. The great thing about EMDR is that it doesn’t require you to share every detail of your past. We’ll talk enough to know what we’re targeting and what feels stuck, but the actual processing happens internally. I’ll be there to support you, and you’ll always be in control of how much you want to say out loud.
Do I have to talk about everything that happened?
We’ll go at a pace that feels manageable for you. Preparation is a big part of the process, and we’ll build in tools to help you stay grounded and as calm as possible. You’ll never be asked to push through something you’re not ready for.
What if I feel overwhelmed during processing?
Traditional talk therapy often focuses on insight, reflection, and new strategies. EMDR includes those pieces, but also helps your nervous system process unresolved experiences on a deeper level. It’s more about helping your brain respond as if the experience is truly over, so you are not stuck in old reactions.